Love, CharenLeigh

Mentally floating through life in His bubble.

If you have nothing nice to say, do not say it at all?

Definition of flaw

1a: a defect in physical structure or forma diamond with a flaw

b: an imperfection or weakness and especially one that detracts from the whole or hinders effectiveness

No makeup, No filter, Flaws and All — I included this picture to represent me, as my most natural state. To learn to love me, without all the extra stuff.

Is it wrong to want someone to see you for your differences and love you anyway, I have learned that the people who are meant for me love me exactly for who I am despite what others consider as flaws.

Who were you before someone told you something different about yourself? As we grow older we start to listen to others more and more. We take into account their ideas and their opinions of us and we use those to help determine who we think we are. This begins as children and how our parents or guardians influence how we see ourselves.

Flaws and all, is a saying we use when we want someone to care for us, to love us that include all the parts of ourselves that are not so appealing to the eye. Are you willing to sacrifice who you really are because it seems to be a flaw to someone else? We are all guilty of listening to others and running with those thoughts that another person has about us, about me.

It may have taken me years to learn to love myself for the flaws I have. But honestly, are they even flaws to begin with? I hate that we as people label things that are differently about each other as flaws. Oh you have a small booty, broader shoulders, larger gut, bigger hips, small boobs, you suffer from acne, oh you’re too much or too sensitive. Are these even really flaws? How do you look at yourself and decide what is considered a flaw and what is considered a part of who you are?

I am not sure why it has been so heavy on my heart lately that what we consider flaws about ourselves really are not flaws at all. They make us unique, they make us special, they create exactly who we were meant to be. Embracing myself, who I am and the differences about myself made me realize that none of us as men and women really have flaws.

There are parts of ourselves that need a little tender, love, and care but they are NOT flaws. They help mold us into the person we are supposed to grow to be.

I know we all say, “If you have nothing nice to say, then do not say nothing at all.”, when we refer to speaking to other people, but what about yourself. How many times do you refer to your differences as flaws? Stop saying these things about yourself. You will realize you are creating negative thoughts about how uniquely God made you. How you were created from scratch to be exactly who you are, “flaws and ALL”.